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bidyke:

bonnienoire:

just in case you didn’t fucking know

bisexual DOES NOT automatically infer attraction to only binary genders AND EVEN SAYING THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE IS BIPHOBIC AS HELL AND IGNORANT AS FUCK

HERE’S WHY FROM AN ACTUALLY BI PERSON

• bisexuality was not a word made by bisexuals, just as how homosexuality/gay, and lesbian/dyke, were not made by people who identify as that. it was reclaimed from institutions that sought to prove it was unnatural or an illness. 
• further this focus on etymology is a consistent insult for bisexual, while everybody knows lesbians are not from lesbos and gays aren’t always happy. the origin of the terms are never used against monosexualities as a way to invalidate their personal relationship with their sexuality.
• the TWO referred to by bisexual is better described as being towards “sameness” and “otherness” — that a bisexual person is attracted in both directions along a continuum of gender presentations.
• this description of attraction as having something of a directional expression is important because the type of attraction or expression of attraction to different gender presentations feels different from each other, and is an expression of the experience of a bisexual person’s sense of attraction as different from that of a monosexual. 
• claiming bisexuality does not include attraction to trans* and genderqueer identities FUCKING IGNORES EVERYONE WHO IS BISEXUAL WHO IS ALSO TRANS* OR GENDERQUEER
• here’s someone who says all of this and more, and better.
• fuck you if you still think bi is binary after reading this post

<333333333 Angry bisexuals (and yay for linking my blog post ^_^)

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bialogue-group:

bisexualftw:

In their coverage of this past weekend’s Boston Pride, a major local newspaper the Boston Globe’s reporter Meghan E. Irons described the parade as an event that shows “gay, lesbian and transgendered (sic) people are proud of who they are”.

All mention of Bisexual People were completely erased from the parade!

To add insult to injury one of the photos the Boston Globe is using to illustrate the article is actually of one of the bisexual marchers with her dog Leo all decked out for the occasion!

Click the link to read a response from Ellyn Ruthstrom, the president of the Bisexual Resource Center (which is based in Boston).

She’s asking people  - yes, that means you :) - to email the reporter at mirons@globe.com, and cc comments@globe.com to “let them know that the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community celebrates Pride together and we’d appreciate to all be described correctly when written about.” She also encourages us to comment on the incorrect usage of the term “transgendered”. (sic)

and PS You might want to let them know that it was actually a well know Bisexual Activist, Brenda Howard who started the entire Pride thing. Howard “is known as the “Mother of Pride”, for her work in coordinating a rally and then the “Christopher Street Liberation Day March” to commemorate the first anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion. Howard also originated the idea for a week-long series of events around Pride Day which became the genesis of the annual LGBT Pride celebrations that are now held around the world every June.”

bisexual-community:

Where do I begin, Should I be outraged that a bi study yet again, has not talked about bisexual men and women together? Should I be enraged that media like Your Tango is reporting that bisexuals would be better off not identifying themselves at all; because of mental health stresses …

And let’s just make our lives easier, because after all, why should we not study the real reasons behind the mental health issues surrounding bi people. Lack of support—not being accepted on all fronts or understood and removed from the earth as we know it. I think my step-mom who is Jewish could say something about out of mind out of sight on history, right? Please, these issues are large, we get it. The bisexual population has a major issue with self-hatred (internal phobia), and until we get this one point, these studies we continue to say. Let’s do away with terms “bisexual label” because it just makes our life a whole lot better for me and my partner (s), the family and for everyone … and well, that’s just a great compromise? Hell no! …

Listen, if you want to use other terms that define you, I’m all for it! Great. Why not … but when an article and study tells me, I would be better off NOT being black, or NOT being bi or NOT being a woman, because well life is just too hard to deal with that baggage, then we need to look at the very root of what’s going on in the bi community. ~~ Adrienne Williams

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bialogue-group:

I’m confused. Does bisexuality come with an expiration date?

According to lesbian professor Dr. Lisa Diamond, one of the leading scholars on women’s sexuality, lesbian and bisexual women more often have fluid, complex, varied sexual histories than linear, static ones. Bisexual women — and lesbians — may be “50/50” (in terms of experiences with men and women), they may have long periods of time being with just one gender, and they may even be life-long monogamists who are only ever with one person of one gender. All of that can fall under the umbrella of women who use the word “bisexual” to describe themselves.

Why can’t Jessie J be bi just because she says she is? Why is it that when a celebrity comes out as a lesbian, I don’t read that she’s actually really secretly bi, but was pressured by her handlers to say she’s gay, [Ed Note: actually that DOES happen but is certainly not as common, for example the American actress Cynthia Nixon felt forced to hide her bisexuality] but when someone comes out as bi, I see this kind of thing over and over again? Why is female bisexuality so unbelievable to people, and why must a woman’s statement about her own (bi)sexuality be discredited?

How hard is it to just take a woman’s word for it, when she talks about her (bi)sexuality?

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amazingly enough, one of three (3) related pieces posted on this topic today … Make Sure you READ THEM ALL:

1. “Hot sexy bi babes: media depictions of bisexual women” by Shiri Eisner in Bi Radical
2. “Visi(bi)lity: How Did I Get Here? (or: What Chasing Amy Taught Me About Media and Identity)” by Carrie Nelson in Bitch Media
3. “Why Can’t Jessie J Be Bi?” by Amy Andre in HuffPo

bialogue-group:

cloudofgorgeousness:

Something that occurred to me recently: I am never in a straight relationship, and I am never in a gay relationship, although my partners may be. I am always in a bisexual relationship, regardless of the gender of the person I’m dating.

Yes! Yes! Yes! One of the many reasons that the accusations sometimes leveled at bisexual people in different gender relationships of deliberately accessing some sort of ‘heterosexual privilege’ is such a fallacy. Bisexual people, by definition, can never be in a ‘Straight Relationship’ becasue We Are Not Straight!

Privilege comes from the closet (or perhaps from some sort of mistake on the part of the viewer) not from self-identification.